To create a place for healing, understanding, sharing, generous listening and resources for those of us that are grieving, coping and growing through the loss of a father. We extend this community to those for whom our fathers were husbands, brothers, sons, co-workers and friends.
We launched Remembering Papa in November 2018 in honor of our dear father (we affectionately call him Papa). November 2018 marks 20 years since we lost him to a terrible car accident. One purpose for Remembering Papa is to cherish the wonderful human being we were so fortunate to call our own. Another equally important purpose for Remembering Papa is to create a space for healing, understanding, sharing, generous listening and resources for those of us that are grieving, coping and growing through the loss of a father.
Having gone through the loss of our father, we know how difficult it can be. We understand that it can be hard to find what we need to heal and put the pieces back together, even after 20 years. We know well-meaning friends & family do not always understand. We realize that sometimes the only peace we experience is in the shared moments with others who have experienced a similar loss. We, like you, would give so much to have our father back.
Our father, Avadhesh Srivastav, is dearly remembered by friends and family as an intelligent, kind and giving friend, husband, brother, father. He had a witty sense of humor and marched to the beat of his own drum. He was sensitive, strong, generous, compassionate, and loving. He was was a simple man. He had no enemies and few material desires for himself. The smartest human being we have ever known, he was highly accomplished, yet humble to a fault. His entire world revolved around us, his family. And our entire world revolved around him. He was our best friend and our rock.
Our father attended Louisiana State University where he studied towards his PhD in Mechanical Engineering from 1966 - 1972. In 1972, he married his high school sweetheart, our mother, Lalita. They went on to have the four of us between 1973 and 1982. Together they provided us with the best childhood we could have asked for. There was an abundance of love in our home. Our father spent every waking hour outside of work with us - playing with us, guiding us, supporting us, listening to us, caring for us. Somehow he made each us fell like his favorite. We knew we were his top priority and that meant everything to us.
Our father had a wonderful sense of curiosity and loved to travel and experience cultures from around the world. He included us in every adventure. As children, we traveled the world with our parents. Experiencing the world together as a family make up some of our fondest childhood memories.
Our father loved providing us with opportunities and experiences to expand our horizons. Whether it was the new Beatles compilation CD, the go kart track down the road, a great book, or the Rockets championship celebration at the Summit, he made sure we experienced it.
Our father was wildly intelligent. He was known throughout his community of friends.family and co-workers as such. His intense mathematical inclination lends no doubt that he was an engineer. His mind amazed us and we strive to be him daily.
Our father was very creative and musically inclined. He was a phenomenal self-taught tabla player and singer. Many Saturday evenings in our home included dear family friends gathered around in the living room after a scrumptious dinner, with our father playing the tablas and singing our favorite songs.
Needless to say, our world was perfect with him in it. Things have never been the same since, and we miss him more than we could ever describe in words.
This one's for you, Papa.
Your Loving Family